I so sorry ur going through this. The women men cheat with are not better looking, younger, or skinnier than their wives. What do men say theyre getting from their mistresses that theyre missing at home? Ive thought about confronting her, and Ive thought about hiring a private investigator What should I do? And he denied it completely. Either that, or he has joined a hook-up site and has found a married woman in which to have these trounces with. That he wasnt happy etc. I miss it so much. We got married cuz I got pregnant now we have 2years old son. First time i found out I forgave him he continued to do it behind my back, when i was pregnant he continued we went to the doc and found out i was pregnant i thought he was texting my mom but he was texting the other women and he would call the other women when i left for work or not when Im not around. So I decided to give him a last chance because I have faced too much obstacles in order to get married with him. Emotionally, sexually, every aspect. hire a private investigator to spy on him and get your proof. I wish men would just be honest with their wives. I asked him who this was. 5 Signs, 5 Ways to Respond When Your Boyfriend Stops Texting, Are You in Love With a Married Man? Always believe your husbands nonverbal cues, especially if you suspect hes lying about cheating. I found out while I was at church on Sundays he was at her house, smoking crack, helping her with bills, bringing her to the laundry matt, etc. I cannot take it anymore.what Iam suppose to do??? Hes not trustworthy enough to be responsible for that obviously. I do not know your husband nor do I even know you but if I did I would most likely beg you to go out for a drink with me and explain al the reasons why you are better then him while we knocked back martinis .. that being said I am sure you have to know he will most likely never recover from this cerial cheting he has got going on here. hi my husband and i just got married barely 3months ago but we have been seeing each other for almost 3years before marriage.during our courtship he was the sweetest person i ever knew and so i did all i could to keep the relationship,i got pregnant for him and that was what triggered our marriage and from that time till now i found out he was just a totally different person. So, it brings me, again, to ask why are you asking women who have and can lose everything they ever wanted in life: a husband who is faithful if you should have an affair with a married man? I was doing christmas. We are married for 4 years, but we are together for 7 years. All I can do is give you a few things to think about, and encourage you to talk to a counselor or friend that you trust. He has a drug addiction and I kicked him out well e spent all his time here with us. He is a Godly man etc. His response to my statement-something is terribly wrongyou think Im having an affair! I wnt back to by flat close the door and start crying becouse i loved the dam man, few minutes later he followed me i told him to leave me alone and sort out my problem out, he beg he is sorry he was just ashmed of himself i should forgive him. My heart just sank. He doesnt take as much time for me as he could. I recently learned that he kept track of the days he saw her by drawing smiley faces in his calendar. When women whose husbands lie about cheating are later asked if there were any red flags earlier in the relationship, 95% of them say YES. My name hannan iam filipina live in saudi arabia middle east I been maried 3 years, my husband saudian, I was in loved with him because he was a sweet, loving but he always lying on me, not only once,twice million times thats whyI changed. Nope!!! I thought I knew him: this is my husband on work stress. Currently I was told that my wife went up to the super market to go shopping. For years, he has connected through email (late at night etc.) Chris if you are 4 out of 5 of these things then perhaps you need to work on yourself and be more compassionate and understanding of the confusing mixed signals you are sending your wife. We had bbqs at each others houses, bonfires, and they went out on our boat with us, 1 time she even brought her kids whom my husband payed a lot of attention too. I dont have all the answers, but I do have a few tips! I feel it at most times but I push myself away because my trust for him is very little. but he got angry and emotional the last time. I think you are 100% correct in wanting to end the relationship because you cant trust him. Well, just recently he decides to come up to me and say that he thinks we should have an open realationship. Well i travelled to. He has continued to reject me physically, and still to this day defends her when her name comes up I know that I am not wrong, I know that even IF( big IF) he never slept with her, he had an intense emotional relationship with her, that superceeded ours by far, and that alone has ruined our relationship and our marriage, and I cannot let go of the it, I need to know the truth, and why! Am contemplating ending the marriage. He told me there wasnt a need to do that because he didnt sleep with her. He said he heard a beeping noise and checked under the seat. Please help me. help me sarah. He waited 7 days to admit this, I remeber that night he came home, boy did he ever have amazing sex with me? Whats the best option for me? He is very charming and although he is 44 years old he looks like a twenty year old.He has always gone out with his friends and I would always say okay because I was scared that that he would leave me if I would complain and that I would end up alone. He straight up denies cheating on me. He plays poker as well and goes to the casino 2 times a week or every other week. It brought back so much pain that I was trying to recover from. I know how it can rock your world. A week later, because I found an unknown name in his address book of his email and asked him who it was, he confessed that it was the girl in that picture. So the issue of cheating, has nothing to do with sex, so if you want your man to be honest with you, you first need to be honest with your self. Hey anonymous, pretty sure thats my husband your venting about. I wanna break this relation but i am thinking about the kid. Even when we were driving him to college he was talking to her on the phone and making plans to meet up with her at our sons college town! Then I realized that since he had a vasectomy, he probably didnt wear a condom. You can often find solid families forming friendships with other solid families; this is one of the major reasons why America became such a wealthy, powerful nation, because a community is stronger if it has more people with good values. It doesnt mean were stupidit just means that were human. I checked his one email NOTHING, he uses another email for other crap I have no idea what, if i could only get my little hands into that account! And you cant trust that hes not lying about his wife cheating first. Everytime she comes picks up the kids, these feelings come up. The marriage isnt working and youre not compatible. A sign your husband is lying about cheating is the frequently used words on his phone. Find out about our Free Virtual Training Search Login. When your partner has been unfaithful, it becomes tempting to bottle up all your emotions and put a smile on your face as if nothing has happened. I have been with my husband for 20 years we have been married for 16. I was able to hear how far the relationship had gone. But I am also terrified of investing more time and energy into someone who has let me down this early on in our relationship and risking getting hurt even more later. Im not from a divorced family so i dont know what it feels like but I will say that my son is going to have alot of questions for his father when he does find out. But I shrugged it off and when I asked him arent you worried about getting in trouble with work? One of the problems with cheating is that its a slippery slope. Im tired of this but I dont want to give up on our relationship. I would Like to know if thats possible. and God bless! And I did. Thanks. Another option is to go to marriage counseling or individual counseling, and try to figure out how your jealousy is affecting your marriage. I think this is why Im writing on this forum now. Should tell me something, huh? Lately Ive been wondering if he is up to no good he took a job promotion and his boss has cheated on his wife before his boss sents him text messages saying things like your wife owns you! I didnt make him have an affair and I am not responsible for his decisions. I gave my husband sex for a while because I wanted to feel that I could satisfy him like the 20 year old lap dancers. Youre too good for that man! We have a 7 year old son. His untruths are more frequent. I have been married for a little over 5yrs. When asked he told that those were for some game they were going to play for party. The guys a jerk. He admitted to me that four months ago when he learned she would be transferring to another site he bought her a small gift a necklace. Amen. was your husband not responsible (money wise, or family wise)? In the pictures they appear in close proxity. Even now after three months he says he is physically not attracted to her anymore. AFTER ABOUT 3 WEEKS, I TOOK HIM UP ON HIS INVITATION TO COME TO HIS MOTEL ROOM. so i dont trust him. whiteflag said: My husband gave me an STD, he wont admit that he cheated and tries to get me to believe that maybe I had it for yrs (we been married 6) and Im just seeing the signs. Then deeply breathe and say really? Is it like pulling teeth getting him to spend time with you? Not to walk away thinking what if i was wrong, did I just give up. They always do. I will never do anything like that again. According to this page. And i told him that alochol was just as much a drug as weed is and he and i do not see eye to eye on this. Not even two months after we were married i found out he was cheating with me with a girl he previously was with but she had an open marriage. Another suggestion is to check his phone, and call his last incoming and outgoing numbers. He did it once after a business trip, and another time when he stayed at work late. Thats the scary part.I ignored what I felt in my belly for years, I tried to hope and pretend it wasnt happening or that it would change. Whats this really? does he show to you openly when he go to the other woman? They left together and I am certain they met up at times while I was stuck at work. He won't try and rush you through this first stage of healing and reconciliation. Im so sorry you have to go through this. Should I comfront him about it or should I dismised as a guy thing? Its just sex for my husband. The biggest in your face, a ha i got you was not good though walked in on my husband cheating with the other woman. Oh my gosh, I was so hurt, I felt inadequate, and insecure. and heres the kicker, so what? Has he been faithful to you for the past ten years? 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